Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy.
Proverbs 14:10 NIV
“I’m just angry,” my sister-in-law said as she was describing her feelings three weeks after her husband’s death. Raised in a charismatic church, where modern-day miracles were not only prayed for, but expected, she had come up short.
While her husband’s leukemia had been in a state of remission far longer than the doctors ever expected, it had come back full force. The family physician’s best guess gave him one to two months. He died two days later on Easter Sunday.
Who wouldn’t be angry?
It seems Mary and Martha were a bit ticked when Jesus delayed his trip to their home after he learned their brother Lazarus was dying. Martha, so anxious to tell Jesus what she thought, went out to meet him. “Lord, if you had been here my brother would not have died.”
My sister-in-law feels the same way. Where was God when she prayed, begged and bargained to have her husband healed?
There was the remission. And, even though doctors had their doubts, a stem cell transplant and white blood cells harvested from his sister did make a difference. He had almost four years of living and loving past the point where medical science would have typically predicted the end. The two of them still had opportunities to share God’s word, to make amends, to be strong in the struggle and to escape the rigorous rounds of treatment through their shared passion of making music. The Bible says our days are numbered and, within that number, God set aside time to bring them closer to each other and closer to Him. But in the end, the time came for her husband to slip away. He went peacefully, surrounded by his family. And in some ways, that seems to be the ultimate healing of the heavenly kind.
“We are confident, yes, well pleased rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 5:8 (NKJV)
But here she is, my sister-in-law, all alone and angry. Jesus knew she would feel that way. He experienced anger when he tossed the temple tables. He was sad, and even wept with those who thought they had lost Lazarus. And when the disciples fell asleep at a time he needed them to stay up and pray, he knew the hurt of being alone. So I think we are safe to believe, He will not leave my sister-in-law to resolve the anger, bitterness, sadness and pain all by herself. Jesus loves her, this I know, for the Bible tells us so.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” Psalm 34:18 NLT
If you are experiencing similar feelings…hurt, sad, mad, confused…lay it down before the Lord. He alone is our rescue, our help, our hope, our healing. Where else can we go but to the Lord?
Just this morning as she was cleaning out some of her husband’s stuff, someone she doesn’t even know, sent her a card with this message:
“We give back to you O God, those whom You gave to us. You did not lose them when You gave them to us and we do not lose them by their return to you. Your dear Son has taught us that life is eternal and love cannot die. So death is only a horizon and a horizon is only the limit of our sight. Open our eyes to see more clearly, and draw us closer to You that we may know that we are nearer our loved ones, who are with You. You have told us that You are preparing a place for us; prepare us also for that happy place that where You are we may also be always, O dear Lord of life and death.”
~William Penn (1644-1718)
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Comments on: "Hope for Healing" (8)
Thank you Annette!
This is so appropriate for me today! A dear friend of mine from Illinois, 56 yr old Allen Moore, passed away 3 mos. ago from a brain tumor. His sweet wife Cynthia came to Nashville this weekend to visit her daughter and came with me to the Village Chapel Sun. a.m.She was so blessed by the message and the music. Afterward, sh went up to Jim and thanked him for mentioning Allen in prayer in church shortly before he passed away. Cynthia and I spent hours reminiscing and tearing up on Sunday afternoon. It was a tough day for us both. I lost my Mother in Feb. 2010 and miss her so much. I will share your words with my friend Cynthia. By the way, she is moving to Nashville since her married daughter lives here. God has great things in store for us all ahead, but it is difficult to lose love ones. It is such a comfort to know in our hearts that they are with Jesus and in no pain and that we will see them again someday.
Your writings are pertinent, encouraging, inciteful, and uplifting…and you write from the heart. Thanks for sharing! What a blessing!
All the best….In His Grip…Marcy Onan
Marcy…When I sat down to write, this was not the story I intended to work on. But as God does so often, He turned my pen and the words came. Sometimes I have a feeling a certain story might impact a certain subscriber or friend, but yesterday it felt very different. It felt like there were many people who needed to hear God’s words on the subject. How anyone survives without Him, I do not know. You and your friend Cynthia will be in my thoughts and prayers. How fun for you that she is moving close. Yes, God took your mom home, but he is sending you a friend. 🙂
Love ya girl!!
Another good one, Annette!
Thank you Ms. Wells. Your comments mean the world to me.
This post is so uplifting! I was reading a book on prayer for healing recently as I’m trying to discern if I’m called to be a part of this ministry and one of the first things the author reminded me was that death is healing and that eternal life with the Lord in heaven IS WHAT WE LIVE FOR. Healing comes in many forms, just as you are saying here and the unexpected healing that led to 4 more years of active life on earth and sharing his faith with those around him – how many hearts turned to the Lord because of this? We will never know. He earned his reward though, for sure!
Martha…I had a feeling as I posted this one that it would resonate with a lot of people. We are all so blessed to be hearing from God through his word all these years later. It is and will always be the most relevant tool we have. Keep praying, reading and listening. He will give you a clear answer. 😉
This is so good. It’s a difficult thing when one believes in healing to deal with the loss of a loved one. In the end, we just have to trust that we don’t know everything…that’s hard. I come from a church that believes in healing as well, and it’s difficult not to get into “works” because you start to wonder what you did wrong, what the sick person did wrong.
I’ve come to the conclusion that His grace is sufficient. It’s sufficient for healing, and it’s sufficient for us when we are left behind.
My mother and I suddenly lost my father almost a year ago. She and I write about our journey. She has come through the experienced strengthened and encouraged in the Lord…maybe this link might help? I’ll be praying for your sister in love.
God is good. Yet will I praise Him.
Thank you so much for your kind comments. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your father. As we watch God work in our daily lives, answering our prayers, providing our needs, blessing us with some of our wants, I suspect if we knew exactly what awaited us, we would want to skip to the front of the line. It is always the unknown that seems to scare us most. Keep writing, you never know the impact your words will have. 🙂